Honesty Really Isn’t a Lonely Word
Posted by AdminJun 17

What can I say? The time has gotten away from me.
Our daughter Reya has issues with depression and mood disorder. So in a good week it can be a bit of a bumpy ride.
It has not been a particularly good week.
As I mentioned the other day, she is scheduled to go for an echocardiogram and a bronchoscopy. This is just the most important two on an ever growing list of testing we need to deal with as a result of a recent diagnosis of a Chiari malformation and some unrelated troubling symptomology. This is pretty stressful for her … and, frankly, for us as well.
She also has had major falling-outs with two of her closest friends – Sailor and Keyblade Both of whom claim to never want to speak to Reya again. I can only hope that it turns out to be 98% teenage girl drama so that it blows over and they make up.
As a result, Reya gets to miss an anime convention this weekend. One she has wanted to go to for years. One she tried valiantly (although ultimately admitting defeat) to make more than one costume for. One she was supposed to attend with Sailor and Sailor’s mom. One she was supposed to stay in the hotel for and be at for all 3 days. Needless to say she is devastated. But luckily only angry now at the friend, and no longer at us for not being willing to juggle the finances and scheduling changes (with father’s day and a visit to Accolan’s ill grandfather already on the schedule this weekend) to try and get her there for even one day.
Never mind the fact that I was worried what her reaction would be if we ran into either of these girls at the con itself. And I was worried what my reaction would be.
I’m pretty worried about her. Because this isn’t even everything that’s been on the table this week.
I’m worried about her physical health.
I’m worried about her emotional health.
I’m worried about her future.
I can’t let it go. I keep picking at it …. thinking how to fix it …. researching medical conditions on the internet …. worried pretty much every waking moment.
And that worry has me blocked way earlier than I would have thought on a brand new blog. But then, a good friend, told me that I should simply talk to you all about just that … about being blocked, about the real reasons why.
And it reminded me what I really love about blogging. That when its good, when a writer truly engages the reader, it creates a window into another life. We become intimately familiar with faces and places we’ve never actually seen in person. We become connected emotionally to people we’ve never met.
What connects us? Honesty.
That willingness on both sides to have a conversation. To express real thoughts and true feelings.
And so I share some of my, our, truth with you. And I welcome yours as well.
Blessings
Jia
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Comment by Nydia
on June 17, 2010 at 11:24 pm
Blogging is not an obligation, this is something I learned and that’s why I keep telling this to my friends, and why I keep that button on my top left sidebar.
I love that you were honest. I am so sorry about your daughter and how scaring it may be to think about her future. But it’s great that you care, you’re a true mother, and care. I’ve seen many people simply giving it up without caring a bit. I don’t know about her future, but I know about her now. She’s surrounded by love and strenght. I can’t really know how it is for you, but I know you can deal with it and climb this mountain, specially if remembering that you are also surrounded by love and strenght from your friends.
Hang in there.
Kisses and love.
Comment by Diandra
on June 18, 2010 at 4:41 am
This must be a tough time for you. I hope you have people around you who support you and help you with everything that may still come your way.
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Comment by Nessa
on June 18, 2010 at 6:38 am
You do have so much going on in your life. It is hard when our children have problems. We want to wave a magic wand to make it all better.
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Comment by Jennifer
on June 18, 2010 at 10:28 am
Hey…just wanted to say, thank you for your honesty. It reminds everyone that you’re a real person, with real worries just like us (your readers). I’ve been going through some real stress at work and it is comforting when I read blogs I like and realize we all have tough times and situations to deal with. Hang in there, you’re strong, and your daughter is lucky to have the support of a loving mother to help her through HER life challenges. Thank you again for sharing your life. I love your blogs
Comment by Zulma
Twitter: phoenix2327
on June 18, 2010 at 3:23 pm
I’m so sorry Reya is going through such a tough time. Falling out with friends and missing out on things you had your heart set on hurts. But what’s really hard to accept is the fact that Mom and Dad aren’t all-powerful beings that can make everything all better. They’re only human after all. It’s hard for us as parents too when we realize it as well. Perhaps her anger is based on this realization more than any perceived failure on your part. (I’ve been following 2witches for awhile now and it’s obvious you and your hubby couldn’t possibly any more than you do already.)
Unfortunately, it is part of growing up. Not just for children but for parents as well. This is why a strong family unit is so important. And yours is one the strongest I’ve seen. Reya’s in good hands.
The ride isn’t going to smooth out anytime soon, but it will. There are still so many adjustments that need to be made by everyone. But you’ll find out what works for you as you go along. You just gotta hang on; you gotta believe.
Blessings and best wishes for you all.
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Comment by Jia
on June 19, 2010 at 10:54 pm
Zulma
I cannot express how much your words touched me. Its been a long and winding road (if I dare pull it yet another song reference). It’s nice to know that someone thinks I’m not F-ing up too badly.
Severing those apron strings is so hard. Thank you for your support!
Blessings
Comment by Jia
on June 19, 2010 at 10:56 pm
Thank you Jennifer.
I am so sorry to head that things have been stressful at work. We spend so much of our life there, it cant help but bleed over into the rest of our life, especially when its bad.
Hugs!!!
Comment by Jia
on June 19, 2010 at 10:58 pm
Nessa
Isnt that the truth. From watching them skin their knee for the first time, to helping them through their first broken heart. Its just all so hard!
Comment by Jia
on June 19, 2010 at 10:59 pm
Diandra –
Thanks for your support. Luckily Accolan & I are best friends. And we have people who love us on our side. We’ll keep getting through.
Comment by Jia
on June 19, 2010 at 11:03 pm
Nydia –
Thank you sweetie. Life gives us hurdles. You know this as well as I. We will both overcome.
May the Goddess bless you and yr witchling!
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